5 Ways To Keep The Bride Happy With Your Selfies

I’m sure you don’t mean to be annoying, right?

The big trend in 2015 is using the “selfie stick.” The metal pole probably reminds any self-respecting child from the 80’s or 90’s of Inspector Gadget (“Go, go gadget arm!”). You pop in your cell phone, extend the pole and you are able to take a large group shot that doesn’t have your arm filling the bottom part of the photo. Even though it has been banned at places like Disney, you think it’s actually a pretty cool invention, right?

Should you use your selfie stick at a wedding?

Of course, we were bound to see selfie sticks at weddings. I know that they may be considered irritating by some people, so as a photographer, you may be surprised that I would say YES, you should use yours while celebrating the big day! However, there are some etiquette tips to make you less obnoxious while you snap your photos.

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1. Respect the ceremony

Whether you are a groomsman or a guest, using a selfie stick during the ceremony is just plain bad manners. The bride and groom invited their family and friends to witness their marriage. They don’t want someone else ruining the moment by shoving their phone out into the aisle, above the guests heads or even into the professional photographs. And they certainly don’t want to have guests paying attention to your phone instead of them, taking the focus away from their vows. Keep the selfie stick and your phone tucked away and just bask in the bride and groom’s love while they become Mr. and Mrs.

2. Let the professional photographer work

The bride and groom spent time and money picking out the photographer to capture their special day. They are on a time schedule to get the professional photographs done before the reception gets rolling. Make sure to stay back and let them get those important photos finished. The photographer will be able to get the shots they need much quicker and easier if they are not fighting off your metal selfie pole or regathering stray bridesmaids that jumped into your selfie shot.

3. Include lots of people, especially the bride and groom

The extended arm lets you include a big group in your shots- get them in there! Don’t hog the spotlight for yourself. And make sure to ask the bride and groom to get into a group shot or two.

4. Share the images

A lot of couples will have a wedding hashtag to share their images online. Make sure to post your images with the hashtag so everyone can see and enjoy them.

5. Don’t be annoying

This should go without saying, but I’ll say it anyway. Too much of a good thing can be annoying. Wedding champagne and a hopping dance floor is no place for wielding a selfie stick. Certainly, nobody wants to get poked or pushed aside while you are taking a photo. Once you’ve capturing some fun crowd shots, put the selfie stick away and show off your dance moves, instead. You don’t want to upset the bride and groom or their guests by waving your phone high above them all night.

 

Follow these tips and you can enjoy being the life of the party and get some amazing photos, while still being a wonderful guest.

If you are the bride and groom embracing the selfie stick revolution, consider giving them as wedding favors. You could even get them engraved with your wedding date. And don’t forget to share that wedding hashtag with all your guests so you can see all the fun that happened through the day!

Kimberly and Neil’s Romantic, Intimate Wedding

Sometimes, smaller really is better.

When it comes to weddings, planning large events can be overwhelming, and even impersonal. On the wedding day, having 8 or more bridesmaids and groomsmen to wrangle, needing to mingle with 350 guests and keep the whole thing running on schedule is enough to make even the most organized, outgoing bride wishing for the evening to end.

So, on the flip side, a small, intimate wedding can feel more special.

Without the “pomp and circumstance,” you can focus on what is important: love and marriage.

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Kim and Neil had a small window of time in which to plan their wedding. Neil is a marine, so with limited leave, a large, traditional affair was not an option. They planned their mid-week wedding, knowing there would be just enough time to return to base.

Sixteen family members came together to celebrate Kim and Neil’s marriage. Everyone stood together at the altar to be a part of the ceremony. When every single guest that is at the wedding truly wants to be there and is excited for the couple, it shows. The love can practically be felt in the air!

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Lovely Winter Wedding Album & How The Process Works

Anna and Atit celebrated their marriage twice. Their Catholic wedding ceremony took place in Jefferson, Wisconsin, several days after their Chicago hindu ceremony. (You can see more images here.)

Wedding album for winter catholic hindu marriage ceremony in madison wisconsinThis is the album that showcased the Catholic ceremony. Along with photographs of the ceremony, it had images of their family and the reception that took place afterward at the Madison Concourse Hotel in downtown Madison, Wisconsin.

Anna and Atit selected their favorite 100-and-some photographs that I designed into the final album.

Often, the design of a wedding album is a collaborative effort. The bride and groom can have as much control over the images that go into it as they want. Some couples will pick them all, others prefer me to make the storytelling selections, and still others will pick some and have me round out the design by picking the rest.

Once images are selected, they are worked into a custom design. This is an important step with my albums that I create. Since no two weddings are alike, and certainly no two brides would pick the same images for her album, I don’t use templates to create albums. There is no way I could force couples into one-size-fits-all boxes. The design is completely dependent on the images that were chosen and the style that the bride and groom like.

When this custom design is then ready for the couple to look over, they give their approval before the album goes into final production.

The cover of an album can range from fabrics and leathers to custom designs and photographs. Anna and Atit opted for a solid blue leather cover for their album. Since their wedding colors were blue and brown, it coordinated perfectly.

Real Wedding Feature on Iowa’s Corridor Wedding Guide

Corridor Wedding Guide Real Wedding feature bride groomWhen the Corridor Wedding Guide asked us about featuring one of our brides and grooms on their Real Weddings section, I knew exactly who I would pick!

Bre and Steve were married on August 1st in Iowa City, at a gorgeous Catholic church with a reception at the popular Bella Sala. I have had the pleasure of working with them since we met last November. We had done a bridal show at the Old Capital Museum that Bre attended. We clicked from the start.

We quickly found lots to bond over, from our love of Wisconsin (Steve) to a shared obsession of wedding details (Bre), like the cake that was Bre’s whole inspiration for her color scheme and theme.

Steve is a Green Bay Packers fan, so we even tweaked the time of their engagement session so he wouldn’t miss all of the Super Bowl playoff game. (That was the game the Packers lost, so we won’t speak of this again….)

The genuine and compassionate emotions that Bre shares become contagious. You can’t help but be drawn in by her, whether she is talking about her wedding, her family or the people at work who she treats like family.

When she cried when she first saw her wedding photographs, I was both touched and delighted! I knew the photographs were very important to her, so when she saw them and loved them, that meant so much to me.

So, it made me happy and excited that we were able to share these images with everyone else.

I already knew the story of how they met and fell in love, but it was still so much fun to read it again on the Corridor Wedding Guide website. Hop on over to read the story and see more images from Bre & Steve’s wedding. I hope you enjoy it, too!

Corridor Wedding Guide Real Wedding getting ready first look

 

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Behind The Scenes At A Wedding

As photographers, we usually try to stay BEHIND the camera. Like a lot of people, we’ll shy away from being photographed.

Especially during a wedding, we don’t want to draw attention to ourselves and we certainly don’t want to become the focus of the photography.

And during a wedding, we are usually concentrating so much on the details, activity and excitement of the big day for our bride and groom, we barely have time to notice what each other are doing.

Luckily, we don’t have to. That is a perk of working together for so long- we already know what the other is probably doing so we don’t have to give it any thought.

So, once in a while, as I’m editing a session or a wedding, I’ll find extra images. Ones where we were hesitating with composing our own shots long enough to catch the other one of us composing their shots. (But I always, always edit them out…)

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Wedding Day Wish: 1,000 Origami Cranes

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There is an ancient Japanese legend that promises a wish will be granted by a crane to anyone who folds a thousand origami cranes. Dana and Pat folded a thousand cranes for their wedding day. These paper cranes decorated the ceremony and reception, roped as garland, on tables, at place cards and in bottles. They even presented one to each of their parents during the wedding ceremony. 
 
And they made their their wish. They wished for a happy, healthy marriage.

 

Anna & Atit | Wedding

Sometimes, it can feel like wedding festivities go on for days. And when you have two religions to honor, the wedding really CAN go on for days.

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Anna and Atit’s Catholic wedding ceremony still showed signs of the Hindu wedding ceremony that took place several days before, while definitely having elements of it’s own. The combined effect was beautiful, meaningful and personal.

Wedding Planning With A Beer Theme

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I love when a couple takes the time to personalize their wedding style with the things they love. And when they love beer, it makes for a very fun theme.

Andy Sparhawk, over at CraftBeer.com, shares his ideas for his own beer wedding – and encourages you to steal them for your own.

Check out his article, So You’re Marrying a Beer Geek.
While you’re at it, take a look at a wedding we did last fall: 
Cheers to this Brewery-Based Big Day.

Sarmi & Zach | Madison Wedding

 

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Sarmi and Zach’s wedding was split over two different days. First, they had the traditional Hindu ceremony, complete with all the traditions. It was fascinating to listening to the priest’s chanting as the words flowed into a melody. All of the various parts of a Hindu ceremony are rich with symbolize, like the varmala (a sacred string) that was placed around Sarmi and Zach’s necks to protect them from evil influences or when Zach put sindoor (a red powder) on Sarmi’s forehead to symbolize their union and his love and promise to protect her.

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For their American ceremony, only the henna on Sarmi’s hands and the holy threads on their wrists showed a hint of their Hindu ceremony. They choose a very western-world location: a golf course country club. Even though the rain kept the ceremony indoors at the last moment, the day turned out beautifully.

We loved being a part of both ceremonies. It was a riveting look inside another culture’s traditions, which was both educational and entertaining.