10 Days Of Giving Thanks: Day 6

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“We don’t forgive people because they deserve it. We forgive them because they need it—because we need it.” Bree Despain

Day #6
I’m thankful for people that forgive.

Clinging to past hurts can keep you stuck and no one is immune to causing pain. I know I have my flaws and hang-ups. I’m thankful to the people that look past those flaws and forgive me when I’m difficult. I’m grateful to those that don’t take advantage of my failings and have patience if I let them down.

I appreciate people who don’t persist in holding things against me, and who know that people can learn, grow, change. I’m thankful to those who don’t have to always point out where I failed, but instead help me understand and try again. I’m thankful for people who believe in giving another chance.

Day #5 I’m thankful for my home and my health.
Day #4 I’m thankful for those that give the benefit of the doubt.
Day #3 I’m thankful for the people who reach out.
Day #2 I’m thankful for curiosity and creativity.
Day #1 I’m thankful for the love of my family and friends.

10 Days Of Giving Thanks: Day 5

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“But in truth, home isn’t necessarily where you sleep at night. It’s where you feel like yourself. Where you’re most comfortable. Where you don’t have to pretend, where you can just be you.”  Elizabeth Eulberg

Day #5
I’m thankful for my home and my health.

As an introvert who works from home, I’m thankful for the protective shelter of my house. My home is my refuge and my sanctuary. It shields me from the busy, stressful, chaotic world outside and it’s where I can be free from pretenses.

I’m thankful that I have pretty good health. You don’t fully appreciate your health until something happens so you don’t have it, like getting a foot injury that makes you hobble. I’m glad I’m strong and have enough energy to take the stairs, carry a sleeping 6-year-old to bed, or try something new, like ice skating, without worry of hurting myself. I’m thankful I can find those happy endorphins after a hard run. And I’m especially thankful to know that I’m healthy enough to wake up tomorrow to try it all again.

Day #4 I’m thankful for those that give the benefit of the doubt.
Day #3 I’m thankful for the people who reach out.
Day #2 I’m thankful for curiosity and creativity.
Day #1 I’m thankful for the love of my family and friends.

10 Days Of Giving Thanks: Day 4

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“Think the best of each other, especially of those you say you love. Assume the good and doubt the bad.”  Jeffrey R. Holland

Day #4
I’m thankful for those that give the benefit of the doubt.

In a world where people often jump to conclusions without having all the facts and fill in the empty spots with negative assumptions, I appreciate getting the benefit of the doubt. I’m thankful for people that choose to believe the best about others and don’t automatically expect the worst. I’m thankful for those that resist the urge to be offended if I don’t handle things the way they would or how they’d hoped, but instead look for the good intentions.

I’m thankful for people that don’t judge me based on what others might think or say. I’m thankful for true friends that stick up for me when I’m not even there. I’m grateful for the people that know there is often more going on than what they see. I appreciate those that freely give their understanding and go out of their way to learn the truth.

Day #3 I’m thankful for the people who reach out.
Day #2 I’m thankful for curiosity and creativity.
Day #1 I’m thankful for the love of my family and friends.

10 Days Of Giving Thanks: Day 3

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“One of the most important things you can do on this earth is to let people know they are not alone.” Shannon L. Alder

Day #3
I’m thankful for the people who reach out.

Sometimes, it’s hard to stay connected if a friendship feels one-sided, where the burden to reach out feels like it always falls on one person. I appreciate people who recognize that we’ve all been on both sides and still keep making the effort. I’m thankful for the friends that don’t use the excuse of being “too busy” to justify not reaching out. I’m so grateful for the people that take the time to really listen and are genuinely interested in what I have to say, friends that know sometimes you just need to be heard.

If I’m overwhelmed and in a mood, I may pull in and close myself off. But it’s at those times when people don’t hear from me that I need to hear from them. In truth, it’s especially at those times when others’ efforts to reach out are so appreciated, even for something as simple as a little text, just to know they are thinking of me

Day #2 I’m thankful for curiosity and creativity.
Day #1 I’m thankful for the love of my family and friends.

10 Days Of Giving Thanks: Day 2

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“Curiosity about life in all of its aspects, I think, is still the secret of great creative people.” – Leo Burnett

Day #2
I’m thankful for curiosity and creativity.

I’m thankful for my curiosity, because that’s what drives my creative life. I want to know about the people I meet, the backstory of ideas, the history of things around me. I have a genuine interest in learning and I love when those details can trigger a creative idea that grows inside me. Creative professionals follow their curiosity and I’m thankful I have the courage to do that.

I’m thankful that I can look at something and see the potential and that my imagination can fill in the gaps. I appreciate that I have the drive to keep going where others stop and give up. I’m humbled to know I can create something that stirs emotion in others, from joy and delight to sorrow and compassion, that what I make matters.

Day #1
I’m thankful for the love of my family and friends.

10 Days Of Giving Thanks: Day 1

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“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.” Robert Brault

This is the time of year that people usually try to count their blessings. But 2016 has been a hard year for a lot of people. Of course, people are thankful, but people are overwhelmed. There has been a lot of negativity and pain. So, since being grateful can make you happier, I’ll practice some gratitude with 10 Days Of Giving Thanks.

Day #1
I’m thankful for the love of my family and friends.

I’m thankful for those who are always hoping that I’ll succeed and achieve in all that I do, for those rooting for me and who are excited with me about my successes. I appreciate all the family and friends that support me, believe in me and believe I’m trying my best, despite my shortcomings and weaknesses.

And I’m thankful that I have four kids who give me unconditional love, don’t care if I sing out-of-tune, and always notice when I’m dressed up to leave the house. They have taught me to appreciate when the house gets clean, even if it’s only for 5 minutes, being able to sleep through the night, and especially to appreciate the occasional quiet when they’re getting along.

Be Soft

“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.” -Iain Sinclair Thomas

Be soft

Throwback Thursday | When Clowns Were Still Cute

Sometimes, you look at old photos of yourself from your childhood and think you look cute. But a lot of the time, especially if you lived through the 80’s, you might think you look like a dork.

For the most part, I’m sure most of my childhood photos fall into the “dork” camp.

Recently, I was asked to dig up a photo of myself from my childhood. With Halloween around the corner, clowns being on everyone’s mind and Thursday being known as a great day to share “throwback” photos, I decided to show you what I dug up. Luckily, I was little enough in the photos I found that there was still some of the cute-factor left.

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Take a look at these cute, little clowns who think they’re getting candy! This was me at about 3 years old (on the right) with my big sister (left).

Clearly, this was back when clowns were still considered cute. This was before clowns were used in too many horror movies or started showing up in the woods, near playgrounds.

And it was back when you didn’t just run off to Target to buy a Disney princess costume. This was when mothers would still sew Halloween costumes for their kids at home. My mother made both of these clown costumes, as she did for a lot of my childhood Halloween ensembles.

Except the year my sister and I went as “punk rockers,” using black garbage bags as our dresses. (I still shake my head at my childhood thought process on that one.)

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And this is 6-year-old me, as a little first grader. I had long, straight bangs like that throughout my whole childhood!

My youngest child is now a 6-year-old, first grader, who is also missing a front tooth, like I am in the photo.

I try to study myself in these old photos to see if I can recognize the family resemblance between my kids and myself, wondering if they look at all like me. Does my son have my eyes? My mouth? It’s hard for me to tell. Though I maintain it’s always harder for you to see the resemblance in your own kids than it is for other people to see it and point it out to you.

The reason I was digging around for an old photo was for an author friend’s new book launch. I’m a regular contributor to a blog that focuses on children’s literature. Earlier this week, we were celebrating co-contributor Ronni Arno’s book being published by sharing 80’s photos of ourselves as a tie-in with a blog post. The 6-year-old photo was the one I shared.

Whether it was the feathered hair, heavy bangs or the goofy clothes, it’s hard to look back on childhood photos and not laugh. Regardless, we survived.

And now we take our revenge by photographing our kids so they’ll have photos they can laugh at later, too.

To read about Ronni Arno’s book and to see all us contributors back as we were children in the 80’s, pop over here.

Basement Renovations: Before & After

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I’m super excited to show off some more of our house renovations! We have finally finished the basement great room and have some “befores-and-afters” to share! (Here you can see the living room renovations with before and after photos.) This project has taken us the most work and the longest time to complete.

One of the things I liked about this house was the finished basement with large windows, a door to the backyard and the quirky mid-century indoor grill built right into the brick fireplace. I planned on this being where we watched TV, where the kids would play and where we would hang out with friends.

In the beginning, I was certain it would just need some updating, but it quickly turned into a major renovation.

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As we finalized the sale of our home, we realized we had significant water issues along one wall to deal with in the basement. Unfortunately, that was the wall the bathroom and kitchen were on.

The 1960’s custom cabinetry needed to be ripped out, along with the whole bathroom, to allow access to the wall when a waterproofing company came in. The only part of the kitchen that we could save was the base to the bar. They jackhammered up my basement floor (three times, actually), put in drainage tiles, waterproofed it and added a sump pump.

So, we basically felt like we were starting over with our basement.

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The next thing we had to work on was removing carpet and wallpaper. The room was covered in a thick grass cloth wallpaper that took forever to remove. They had even put it on the ceiling of the stairwell, which was not fun to remove.

I then had the lovely surprise of finding another layer of wallpaper under the grass cloth layer. When we got to the book shelves, we decided it was easier to re-wallpaper then chisel anymore at the walls. We went with a design that had a “retro 60s mod” feel.

While I liked the idea of gray tones similar to what I used upstairs, the brick fireplace called for warm, earthy tones for the rest of the space. And since the fireplace was central to the room, that dictated how we decorated everything. The look I wanted was a “mid-century modern.” I like orange, so this meant that it was a natural choice to accent with.

Flooring options for basements are a bit limited. We didn’t want carpeting, tile seemed too cold, and wood isn’t an option in a basement. So, we were left with laminate. This was my first time putting in a floor (the upstairs living room was a lot easier after this!) and it turned out “okay.” If I was to do it again, I would not choose a smooth wood laminate. Also, I worry too much about the kids getting it wet. I do like that it’s a light color, though, as it bounces more light in the room.

working on the basement remodel new kitchen and floors

Chris suggested not putting the kitchen back in, but again, that was one of the things I liked about this house. We also talked about doing a smaller kitchenette without a bar, but I felt like having the full kitchen and bar would make it more fun to entertain in the basement and on the back patio. So, we reconfigured it a little differently, but kept the same basic idea of the original basement entertaining kitchen.

The two biggest differences we decided on were the open shelves and the bar. I decided that putting upper cabinets back in might feel too “heavy” for that corner of the room. Instead, Chris constructed shelves to use for dishes and to display things. For the bar, we made it a bit deeper to allow seating. Also, I thought it would be fun to pull the copper color from the fireplace and indoor grill into the kitchen area.

I decided I wanted a penny-top bar.

working on the penny bat top

We looked at a lot of tutorials beforehand, most missing the main steps of actually applying the epoxy. We took a lot of photos and video, so we plan to make a tutorial post on that soon. The short version for here is that it took a lot more pennies than I thought and that it was easier to do than I expected it to be. This was a fun project and the colors look amazing together in person.

penny top bar with copper accents

Since we already had copper tiles with our built-in 1960s indoor charcoal grill, we continued that look with the backsplash in the kitchen. I then used copper and oranges for decorating and dishes on the shelves.

built in indoor grill with fireplace 1960s

We have a framed copy of the 1960s sales brochure from the company that sold the indoor grills. They were pretty fancy back in the day! We have used it a couple times and it certainly works, but cooking on a charcoal grill in your house isn’t something you want to do very often. We like it more for the mid-century decor that it gives the room.

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And here are a bunch of “before and after” photos to show you where we started and what we’ve done:

before and after basement new wood floor and bar

before and after basement remodel renovations new wood floor and bar

before and after kids play room in basement

before and after copper bar penny top

before and after new basement kitchen bar with penny top

before and after bathroom remodel gray walls new vanity sink

Edited to add note from Chris: “I’m not sure the “before” pictures paint a true picture. What you can’t see, or smell, is the mold and mildew under the carpet, the crumbling drywall, the 2 inches of rotten wood we had to cut off the bottom of the bar or the mud and sand that filled the floor vents. A lot of work and way more time went into this project than we could have ever imagined. Now it’s FINALLY time to belly up to the bar to celebrate. Cheers!”